I am often asked in sessions about the drama in our lives. Whether it be one’s own drama with themselves or their body (drama that manifests as illness), one that appears in interpersonal relationships (with friends, partners, family), or even drama that is between one and their country or the universe. I was recently asked this again, this time by a friend, who has heard me say quite often that as a Rebirther, I cannot consent with the drama - for, in such a case, how am I different to the factors that created such pain to begin with.

The question was, “How do you not consent with the drama? And what do you do instead?”

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The answer is simple.

During a breathing session, I recognize the drama, and use it to reach the trauma. For it is the trauma that is the source for the pain, pointing to the experience that created the energetic blockage, and which, ultimately, creates and recreates the dramas in our lives, which manifest in various different ways. As a Rebirther, I am interested in the drama only as a means to find the source that created it - the trauma. That is where healing work begins, and that is where the real work starts on the path to change. As a Rebirther, I see and I show, recognizing the patterns, allowing them to be, and respecting them, respecting the drama, reaching out to it and walk alongside its entirety, helping to start making a change. This is where we stop agreeing with the drama, and start scraping layer by thin layer, to reach the trauma. I don’t fight the feelings of anger, hatred, victimhood, but see it all and let it be. I believe the pain and frustration one goes through and invite them to start choosing forgiveness, as a first step to healing.

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Let’s look again at the trauma of birth, and the dramas such trauma can create. For example, forceps or vacuum delivery. If we assume our thoughts create our realities, we therefore must address the moment of our birth, our first experience, and the first thought with which we arrived into this world. As there are different kinds of births, there are also different birth thought patterns, stemming from the baby’s thoughts during and after birth. One of the thoughts that might result from a forceps or vacuum delivery, is “someone out there does not trust me to finish the process on my own”. He thought that might run through this person’s life is “people don’t trust me”. And the behavior pattern that might arise could be one that creates this reality, or attracts it, as validation, which might induce a feeling of failure. This is, of course, the drama.

Another example for a thought that might come about during such birth, is “the first support I ever received hurt my head”. A possible thought pattern that might arise from this, is one that will show itself in moments when the person needs support. They will then abstain from asking for support, thinking “I’m not putting my head in someone else’s hands”. And again, the drama is the symptom, while the trauma, in this case, the birth trauma, is the source.

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I chose to focus on the trauma of birth because our birth is the first imprint in our lives. But the dramas we create are tied to a whole life experience, and not necessarily that of the birth.

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It is also important to remember that while, as a Rebirther, I reach the trauma through the drama - drama does not solve trauma. If we consent to the drama, we will only experience more and more hardships in our lives, and we will reencounter the drama again (if, for example, we consent with the patterns created at birth). The healing process is deep and thorough, and Rebirthing does “clean” out a substantial part of the drama. However - and truthfully, that is the main work the breathing does - it is important to remember to take ownership of our lives. Therefore, it is the breather’s responsibility to own the drama, part with it, and start their path to true healing of trauma.

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